Whether we like to admit it or not, almost everyone has sex dreams occasionally – or for some people, perhaps more often than just occasionally – and sometimes, they’re pretty enjoyable too. But do they have a deeper meaning? Or are they just an expression of our sexual desires?
To answer some of these questions, in this post, we talk about sleeping with a woman in a dream meaning to help you understand if your dream had a deeper signification than just your imagination having a bit of titillating fun while you were asleep.
Dream of Sleeping with a Woman
Before we start talking about how to interpret a dream about sleeping with a woman, we need to say a few words about sex dreams in general – and the first thing we need to put out there is that they are usually nothing to do with sex or sexual desires at all.
We say “usually” since it is possible to have a sexy dream about someone because you are attracted to them – after all, if you spend a lot of time thinking about them, this would seem logical, right?
However, dreams don’t usually work like that, and if you know you like someone, you don’t need a message from your subconscious mind in the form of a dream to tell you about it.
In a similar vein, if you are a woman and you dream about sleeping with a woman, dream experts say that it’s highly unlikely it means you’re a lesbian and that you hadn’t even realized it yourself.
Although this is possible, most people will be far more self-aware than this, so it’s unlikely that if you are a lesbian, you are hiding it so deeply from yourself that you are unaware of it to the point that it can suddenly and unexpectedly be revealed to you in a dream.
Much more commonly, sex dreams in general tell us about our hopes and desires or our fears and anxieties. They can also be about making connections with people – but not in a sexual way.
Sex dreams can be among the most confusing and difficult to interpret because there is usually a lot of emotion attached to them – but let’s dive right in now and try to understand what it means if you dream of sleeping with a woman.
Success or achievement
If you are a straight man – or a gay woman – and you dream of sleeping with a woman, it can be a dream about success or achievement.
However, the dream is unlikely to be about success in matters of love but rather in other areas of your life such as your career.
This is because we see success with the other sex (or with the same sex for homosexual people) as desirable and a kind of achievement.
Then, when we dream, this symbolism is transposed into other parts of our life.
The meaning of this dream, then, could be that you have achieved success in a certain area of your life – for example, you have just been promoted – and the dream represents an expression of your contentment.
At the same time, the dream could represent your desire for success in a certain area. Perhaps you are hoping for a promotion at work, and this dream is a manifestation of this desire.
Sleeping with your boss – a desired quality or desire to connect
If you dream of sleeping with your boss, you may wake up aghast – or perhaps amused, depending on your boss and your sense of humor – but this dream almost certainly doesn’t mean you want to have sex with your superior.
Instead, this dream is most likely an expression of your desire for a particular characteristic you associate with your boss, and in many cases, it will be power or authority – because that’s what bosses most often represent.
It could be that you want to have more control over your life or your career. However, it could equally be another quality you associate with your boss such as empathy, rational thinking, fairness, reliability or hard work.
This is something you will have to figure out for yourself through deep thought, meditation and introspection. However, one thing to note in this dream is that the gender of the boss is not really important in this dream.
This means if your boss is a woman, it doesn’t matter if you’re a straight man, a gay man, a straight woman or a gay woman since it’s the desired attribute of the boss that’s important here.
Alternatively, this dream could be an indication that you want to make a closer connection with your boss – in professional terms – in order to benefit your career.
Sleeping with a female friend – a desired quality or desired connection
Another slightly disconcerting dream – especially if you’re a straight woman – is sleeping with a female friend, but this should be seen in a similar light as sleeping with your female boss.
When you have a dream like this, one likely interpretation is that you admire your friend for a particular attribute that you also desire and that sleeping with them in your dream is a manifestation of this desire.
So if you were worried about what this dream could be telling you, you can put your mind to rest because it probably doesn’t mean you have a secret crush on them!
Another possibility is that the sex in the dream doesn’t represent a sexual connection but a psychological one. It could express a desire to be closer to this friend, and although this was expressed in the dream through sex, in reality, it’s just related to your friendship.
Sleeping with a stranger – you desire a quality they had
Sleeping with a stranger in a dream can have a similar meaning, and it’s highly unlikely that it means you want to have sex with somebody you don’t know.
Pay attention to what the person was like in the dream and what traits they had.
Were they strong and muscular? Then this probably means you too want to be stronger, although possibly not in a physical sense.
Were they particularly tender? Or assertive? Or did they put you at ease? Think carefully about the traits the person in the dream had because they could represent traits you desire.
And again, with this dream, your sex or sexual orientation doesn’t have much bearing on the meaning – although it may feel strange to sleep with a woman in your dream if you are a straight woman or a gay man.
Sleeping with a celebrity
Sleeping with a celebrity in a dream is essentially the same as sleeping with a stranger – because it expresses your desire to gain a trait you associate with the celebrity.
In this case, the dream should be easy to interpret since you probably know how you perceive the celebrity in question, and a little deep thought and self-exploration should bring you the answers.
Sleeping with your ex – you miss them or you miss the sex
If the woman you dream of sleeping with is your ex, it can arouse all kinds of mixed emotions, and there’s a good chance that on some level, it represents you missing them – especially if you have recently broken up.
However, if you are convinced that you no longer have feelings for them, or you are glad the possibly toxic relationship has ended, you may still be missing the sex.
This is because sleeping with someone regularly over a period of time becomes a learned habit that’s hard to forget, much like alcohol or cigarettes.
In fact, when people give up cigarettes or alcohol, dreaming about them is common, even many years later, and the dream you had about your ex may have more in common with an addiction-related dream than anything sexual.
The woman represents you
For women who dream of sleeping with women, there are several possible interpretations that are totally unconnected with sex, especially for women who identify as straight.
In many cases, the woman you sleep with in your dream may represent you yourself, and the dream may represent you getting more in touch with your male side or balancing the masculine and feminine sides of your personality.
Alternatively, the dream could be telling you that you are being too self-centered in your waking life, that you need to spend more time taking care of yourself or that you are low on self-esteem and need to work on building your self-confidence.
Admittedly, there’s a lot to unpack here, but ultimately, the only person who can work out what this dream was about is you.
This means you’ll need to be prepared for a period of deep thought and introspection to explore ideas such as these and come up with a plausible explanation.
A gay man sleeping with a woman
Interestingly, for a gay man who dreams of sleeping with a woman, many of the possible interpretations will be similar to those for straight women sleeping with a woman.
To find the correct explanation for your dream, meditate on the ideas we have suggested in this post, and you will be able to come to a better understanding of why you had the dream you did.
Dissatisfaction with your sex life
Finally, for a man in a relationship to dream about having sex with a woman – whether known or unknown to him – the meaning could really be that he is unsatisfied with his love life.
Perhaps he doesn’t realize it or want to admit it to himself, but this dream is telling him the truth.
And sometimes, the interpretation of a sex dream can be as straightforward as that.
A complicated dream to unpick
As we have seen, sex dreams can be among the most complicated to unpick, and there are many possible interpretations of what you experienced.
However, by meditating on your dream and spending time in self-exploration and self-analysis, your intuition will lead you to the correct interpretation of what happened in your dream.