Having an engagement dream can either feel like a fantastic experience or it can be terribly depressing – all depending on the tone of the dream. If the dream feels negative, it can often hold warnings for your near future or some subconscious fears you may harbor.
On the other hand, when a dream of getting engaged has a positive feel, this can be a great promise for good things to come in your waking life, be they a wedding or something else. To help you distinguish which is which and precisely interpret the meaning of dreaming of getting engaged, below we’ve listed the 10 most common interpretations that apply to most people.
What does dreaming of getting engaged mean?
Unsurprisingly, this type of dream usually has something to do with your feelings and fears about your potential engagement or lack thereof, about your relationship, as well as your desires and regrets. Sometimes, however, dreaming of getting engaged can also relate to other types of commitment such as work, for example, because of how our subconscious mind associates things with one another.
So, let’s get into a few specifics:
1. You have a burning desire to purpose to – or be purposed to by – your loved one in real life
We often don’t need to delve all that deep into our subconscious to find out what a dream means. If you are in a loving relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend, dreaming of your engagement and the ensuing celebration very often means exactly what it looks like it means – that you are excited about how things are going and you’re looking forward to the next step of your life together.
The exact details of the dream can tell us a bit more as to whether you want to be purposed to or the one doing the purposing but in both cases, this dream is easy to recognize as it has a very positive tone and includes you and your loved one, usually in front of others.
2. You need to feel desirable
We often find ourselves dreaming of getting engaged, receiving a diamond ring, and dancing with joy even when we’re not in a relationship. If a single person dreams of getting engaged, even if it is to a stranger, the interpretation usually refers to their subconscious desire to be in a serious relationship with someone ready for a lifelong commitment and devotion.
Such a dream can speak either to some of our deep-seated anxieties and insecurities such as not feeling worthy of love, or it can simply reflect our current real-life circumstances and goals. Which of the two it is will be up to you to determine as you know yourself best.
3. You may have doubts about your relationship with your current partner
Dreaming of getting engaged doesn’t always feel overly positive. Weirdly enough, often such dreams have a rather bizarre or outright negative tone to them. When that’s the case, it can indicate some unexpected issues in your relationship or ones you’ve been suspecting for a while but have been trying to ignore.
Needless to say, such a “negative” dream of engagement shouldn’t be ignored as it’s your subconscious telling you that something isn’t right. This doesn’t mean that you should end your relationship, of course, at least not necessarily. But it does mean there are some issues you need to sort out before you can proceed in either direction.
4. You’re afraid your current relationship is moving too fast
A similar case as the one above happens when your relationship has moved a little too fast for your comfort in a short period of time. In this case, dreaming of getting engaged comes with a feeling of uneasiness and anxiety. This doesn’t mean that there are problems with the relationship or that you need to have doubts – just that you have trouble tolerating the speed at which things are progressing.
This is quite normal for a lot of relationships, particularly new ones and/or featuring young people. And such a discrepancy between the desired speed of progression in a relationship is something that should be talked over with your loved one but isn’t always as much of a cause of concern as it can feel like.
5. You’ve been increasingly overworked recently
Stepping out of the realm of relationships for a bit, dreaming of getting engaged can often have nothing to do with your love life. Often, it merely reflects the circumstances of your career, the increasing levels of your work commitment, your dedication to a work task, or your relationship with a business partner.
Such dream scenarios mix up engagements with work because a lot of people associate both with long-term commitments. This is where phrases such as “married to your work” come from, after all. And such a dream can be either positive or negative, depending on its tone, indicating whether or not you’re happy with the increasing level of professional engagement you’re experiencing.
6. You are envious of someone else’s relationship and engagement
A lot of dreams of getting engaged don’t actually feature us – the dreamer – as the ones getting engaged. Often, we dream of our brother’s or sister’s engagement, or of that of another family member to their significant other.
Dreaming of your sibling or someone else making the important commitments you wish you could make clearly shows some deep-seated feelings of loneliness as well as potentially envy of the other person’s happiness. This doesn’t need to lead to any guilt, of course, as such feelings are quite normal – what matters is how we react and what we decided to do with that insight during our waking hours.
7. You may feel hopeless and depressed about your personal life if you dream of other people getting engaged
Depending on the tone and details of the dream, it can sometimes betray feelings of much more than just envy or jealousy – often it should come as a warning sign that you may actually be somewhat depressed too – often severely depressed if you’ve gone as far as to dream of other people getting engaged.
Dreams like that can be recognized by an inherent feeling of hopelessness that often accompanies them. The dreamer usually finds themselves looking at the engagement celebration from afar, as a passive observer that doesn’t even interact much with the engaged couple, regardless of whether we know them or not.
Of course, a dream like that should always spur you into action to take better care of your mental health.
8. There is a conflict brewing between you and someone you know
There is a reason why the word “engagement” refers not only to romantic engagements but also to war-time encounters. And, indeed, our subconscious mind often perceives the concept of engagement, commitment, and intense, burning feelings with hate rather than with love.
As with the “work commitment” example from above, a dream of getting engaged to someone you hate can indicate that your conflict with that person is actually deepening and you’re feeling like it would last for the rest of your life. You can take this as your subconscious mind giving you a warning that your hate is needlessly intense or you can lean into it and keep going – that’s up to you.
9. You are very indecisive and often feel lost
A dream of an engagement to or of people you don’t know often indicates that you are feeling a little lost in your life and you are not sure what your near future holds or should hold. Dreams like that often portray the dreamer engaged to an unknown person or a distant acquaintance or stumbling upon the engagement or marriage of people they don’t know.
The tone of such dreams is usually somewhat neutral but uneasy, signifying the feeling of disorientation the dreamer experiences in their waking life. This doesn’t necessarily mean you should be overcome with worries about the obstacles and odds you’re facing in your waking life, of course, but it does indicate that you have some things you need to sort out, particularly in your quest for finding new love.
10. You have regrets about missed opportunities from your past
Finally, a very common dream many of us have is that of getting engaged to our high school sweetheart, ex, or crush, usually despite us not having seen that person for years or decades. A dream like that can be a painful reminder of a past romance and missed opportunities.
The dream doesn’t mean that our life would have been better if we had made different choices, however – just that we have some regrets we may need to tackle if we are to move forward with our lives.
In conclusion, what does dreaming of getting engaged mean?
Dreaming of tying the knot can mean lots of things for the dreamers depending on the dream tone. It does almost always reveal something interesting about the dreamer’s true self, however, be it that they have crippling regrets and depression or that they really want a diamond engagement ring on their finger.
Needless to say, knowing the exact meaning of your dream can be quite crucial for your path to self-reflection and awareness.